If you’re a parent, please choose a code word with your kids. Make sure it’s unique, not something that could casually come up in conversation. Don’t pick “school,” “dog,” or “birthday.” Pick something random, like “blueberries,” “dancing penguin,” or “silver moon.” Something odd enough to stand out.
Role-play with them, too. Show them how to use it in different scenarios—when they’re scared, uncomfortable, or just need to leave. Make sure they know you’ll always listen when they use it, no matter what.
That little word could make the difference between silence and safety. For us, it already has. This was the moment I realized that protecting Grace wasn’t just about being present—it was about giving her tools to protect herself when I couldn’t be there.
And for that, I’ll always be grateful for one small, powerful word: blueberries.
